改变你想法的101篇文章

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  2022-02-28
  05. They never overgeneralize other people through their behaviors.06. They speak with precision.07. They know how to practice healthy disassociation.08. They do not try to inform people of their ignorance.09. They validate other people’s feelings.10. They recognize that their “shadow selves” are the traits, behaviors, and patterns that aggravate them about others.11. They do not argue with people who only want to win, not learn.12. They listen to hear, not respond.13. They do not post anything online they would be embarrassed to show to a parent, explain to a child, or have an employer find.
• 6

  2022-02-28
  01. They do not try to elicit a strong emotional response from anyone they are holding a conversation with.02. They do not speak in definitives about people, politics, or ideas.03. They don’t immediately deny criticism, or have such a strong emotional reaction to it that they become unapproachable or unchangeable.04. They do not confuse their opinion of someone for being a fact about them.
• 6

  2022-02-26
  Emotionally intelligent people allow themselves their “bad” days. They let themselves be fully human. It’s in this non-resistance that they find the most peace of all.
• 6

  2022-02-26
  07.They recognize that infallible composure is not emotional intelligence.They don’t withhold their feelings or try to temper them so much as to render them almost gone. They do, however, have the capacity to withhold their emotional response until they are in an environment wherein it would be appropriate to express how they are feeling. They don’t suppress it; they manage it effectively.
• 6

  2022-02-26
  05. They know that happiness is a choice, but they don’t feel the need to make it all the time.They are not stuck in the illusion that “happiness” is a sustained state of joy. They allow themselves time to process everything they are experiencing. They allow themselves to exist in their natural state. In that non-resistance, they find contentment.
• 6

  2022-02-26
  We believe in rooting our everyday functions in logic and reason, yet we come to the same conclusions after long periods of contemplation as we do in the blink of an eye3.
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  2022-02-25
  As your body self-regulates, routine becomes the pathway to “flow.”“Flow” (in case you don’t know—you probably do) is essentially what happens when we become so completely engaged with what we’re doing, all ideas or worries dissolve, and we’re just completely present in the task. The more you train your body to respond to different cues: 7 a.m. is when you wake up, 2 p.m. is when you start writing, and so on, you naturally fall into flow with a lot more ease, just out of habit.
• 6

  2022-02-25
  You feel content because routine consistently reaffirms a decision you already made.
• 6

  2022-02-25
  As children, routine gives us a feeling of safety. As adults, it gives us a feeling of purpose.
• 6

  2022-02-25
  Happiness is not how many things you do, but how well you do them.More is not better.
• 6

  2022-02-25
  let your conscious decisions dictate your day— not your fears or impulses.
• 6

  2022-02-25
  The most successful people in history—the ones many refer to as “geniuses” in their fields, masters of their crafts—had one thing in common, other than talent: Most adhered to rigid (and specific) routines.
• 我楽苦多

  2023-02-13
  自尊可以归结为两个基本要素，一是自我效能感，即“面对生活挑战时可以保持自信”；二是自我价值感，即“相信自己值得拥有幸福”。有意识地生活有意识地生活就是知道自己想要什么，不受潜意识的影响和欲望的控制。你有自己的思考，可以基于这种内在的理解做出明智的选择。自我接纳自我负责你对自己的幸福负责。你知道这句话的意义：“也许这不是你的错，但它仍然是你要解决的问题。”你掌控着自己的人生，你对你做的一切决定负责。自我肯定你可以维护自己，但没必要防御。防御源于恐惧，果断源于自信。有目的地生活你用心而有目的地生活。你意识到，你的“目标”就是在你所在的地方，做你正在做的事情。这样就会让你的生活充满目的感，因为这是你主动选择的，而不是被动等待别人为你创造的。个人诚信
• 悄言悄语悄悄说

  2022-10-30
  当我们认为我们的痛苦是有意义的，痛苦带来的不适就消失了。
• 悄言悄语悄悄说

  2022-10-30
  要改变自己的人生，就必须先改变自己的想法。
• 6

  2022-04-12
  And thank whatever force within you that knows there’s something bigger for you—the one that’s pushing you to be comfortable with less.
• 6

  2022-04-12
  Anxiety builds in our idle hours. Fear and resistance thrive when we’re avoiding the work.
• 6

  2022-04-12
  Moving yourself past resistance is a matter of shifting your perception of comfort.
• 6

  2022-04-12
  Modern society (innovation, culture, wealth, success) is designed to convince us that a “good life” is one that is most comfortable, or able to provide us with a sense of being pain-free and secure. This is pretty directly related to the fact that human beings are hardwired to seek comfort, which translates to us as survival—we’re physiologically designed that way. It only makes sense that in our more fully actualized intellectual and emotional lives, we’d want the same.
• 悄言悄语悄悄说

  2022-10-30
  唯一能改变你和你的生活的，就是你意识到你身体的那些部分都不能代表你。