转变之书

• 皮夹皮

  2016-03-09
  As humankind once knew and celebrated, it is the same rhythm that puts us to sleep at night and wakes us in the morning after a dark time full of half-remembered and enigmatic clues. It is what carries us through the turning year to an ending that opens to yet another new beginning.
• 皮夹皮

  2016-03-09
  One of the difficulties of being in transition in the modern world is that we have lost our appreciation for this gap in the continuity of existence. For us, “emptiness” represents only the absence of something.“Every man’s condition is a solution in hieroglyphic to those in inquiries he would put. He acts it as life, before he apprehends it as truth.”Mostly it is a time to do whatever you do as though it were an element in an elaborate and ancient ritual and to do it with your total attention. For once in your life, you don’t have to produce results or accomplish anything. If you are happy, be happy. If you are bored, be bored. If you are lonely or sad, be lonely or sad. There is not some better reaction you could be having to the experience. Whatever you are feeling is you, and you’re ...
• 皮夹皮

  2016-03-09
  Looking back at the five words starting with dis, note that only “disengagement” refers exclusively to external things. “Dismantling” can be either an internal or an external process, and “disidentification,” “disenchantment,” and “disorientation” all refer to internal things. It is the internal things that really hold us to the past, and people who try to deal only with externals are people who walk out of relationships, leave jobs, move across the country…but who don’t end up significantly different from what and who they were before. They are likely to be people who have learned to use change to avoid transition. They storm out of a job (“rotten, no-good boss!”) rather than discover what it is in themselves that keeps finding such bosses to work for. They end another (yet another!) rela...
• 皮夹皮

  2016-03-09
  The goal of one phase of life becomes the burden of the next. That is why rites of passage begin with a symbolic death.
• 皮夹皮

  2016-03-09
  One way or another, most people in transition have the experience of no longer being quite sure who they are. This experience corresponds to an important element in most passage ceremonies: the removal of the old identity’s signs and the temporary assumption of a nonidentity, which is represented by shaved heads, painted faces, masks, strange clothing or no clothing at all, or the abandonment of one’s old name.
• 皮夹皮

  2016-03-09
  To become something else, you have to stop being what you are now; to start doing things a new way, you have to end the way you are doing them now; and to develop a new attitude or outlook, you have to let go of the old one you have now. Even though it sounds backwards, endings always come first. The first task is to let go.
• 皮夹皮

  2016-03-09
  So in the end, the homeward journey of life’s second half demands three things: First, that we unlearn the style of mastering the world that we used to take us through the first half of life; second, that we resist our own longings to abandon the developmental journey and refuse the invitations to stay forever at some attractive stopping place; and third, that we recognize that it will take real effort to regain the inner “home.”The truth is that, although ours is a youth-oriented culture, many of us do not come into our own until our lives are half or three-quarters over.