驾驭情绪的力量

• 人丑就要多读书

  2018-10-13
  我们不仅经常在预测未来会体验到多少快乐上犯错误，而且常常对自己将来可能经历的痛苦做出过度估计。你是不是曾有这样的念头：“这个是我经受不起的。”但是后来当你真正面对困难的时候，做得却比当初想象要好得多。在我们决定要如何应对负面情绪，或者预估自己能从大吃大喝里得到多少快乐时，这些决策往往都是基于我们对自己未来感受的预测而做出的，但是这些预测的准确度却并不乐观。接下来，我们就一起来重新审视一下我们对情绪的坏处和吃喝的好处所怀的信念，并试着用灵活和富有情感的方式来面对这些信念，不做评判、不怀恐惧，看看它们的庐山真面目。
• 职心眼儿

  2018-07-27
  意志力与其说是一种品质，不如说是一种技艺。
• 职心眼儿

  2018-07-27
  我们真的知道什么能给我们带来幸福吗？
• 彳亍

  2017-10-13
  CONTENTS 1 UNDERSTANDING EMOTIONS AND EATING . . . . . .112 ACCEPTING THE IDEA OF ACCEPTANCE . . . . . . . . . .373 MINDFUL MOMENTS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .634 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .895 SURFING URGES AND DEVELOPING REALISTIC CONFIDENCE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1176 MINDING YOUR MIND . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1357 COPING WITH DIFFICULT EMOTIONS WITHOUT A SECOND HELPING . . . . . . . . . . .1518 CULTIVATING SELF-COMPASSION . . . . . . . . . . . . .1779 TASTING VALUES . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . , .19710 ENDING WELL AND BEGINNING AGAIN . . . . 215
• 彳亍

  2017-10-13
  Thinking VS believing1. For a moment, consider a thought that comes up often, and regard the thought as simply a thought rather than a fact. 2. If you treated this thought as a fact, how might you act? 3. If you actually believed that this thought was simply a thought, how might you act? 4. What would happen if you were to let go of some of your other thoughts or begin to change your relationship with your thinking? It’s important to bring awareness to your thoughts around your ability to sit with feelings and to your thoughts around food and your shape.
• 彳亍

  2017-10-13
  Only humans can bring negative events into any seltting at any moment. You may be on a wonderful vacation, when sudden you think of a lost loved one, and experience pain. When you think about food, even when it is not in your presence, you may notice your mouth water and you may find yourself struggling in deciding whether or not to eat. In the absence of physical hunger, you may notice fantasizing about food, feel stuck on this fantasy in your mind, and go out Of your to eat. Language and cognition are based on the capacity to relate events to eaeh other, While speaking and analyzing are often instrumental to many aspects of our lives, they may also prove detrimental. You may find yourself making arbitrary connections, and because the process of connecting is so essential to how our bra...
• 彳亍

  2017-10-12
  What Goes Up Must Come DownIn our minds, a greater urge equals a greater need to indulge. This is an illusory correlation.What would happen if an urge got strlonger and stronger and you just noticed it, without reacting?They get real bad, and they pass, and they get bad, and they pass.
• 彳亍

  2017-10-12
  The fact is we will never be able toexperience freedom if we are always running away from our feelings. We will never experience meaning when our chief objective is to not feel bad. Feelings arise, and when we are aware, accepting, and flexible, we are able to respond according to choice, setting a deliberate course rather than rigidly following a narrow path prescribed by our fear of feeling bad. This is the path to freedom and meaning. In 1995, Daniel Goleman published the best—selling book Emotional Intelligence, in which he argues that awareness of one’s own emotions and the emotions of others, as well as the ability to manage emotions and impulses, influence the ways we experience our lives. He further argues that these emotion—related abilities are worth considering when we think a...
• 彳亍

  2017-10-12
  Practicing mindfulness may affect your eating in several ways. It can increase your awareness of your emotions, thoughts, and sensations, and you may find Yourself more able to experience life events without using food to COPE.
• 彳亍

  2017-10-12
  Rather, entering into and accepting our emotions is the doorway to freedom and joy, as well as relief from the cycle of emotional eating. But this can be hard to hear. Even my most gracious clients shudder when I say the word “accept” in the context of emotions and eating. Who wants to accept difficult feelings or pain, or accept a weight that feels unacceptable? It can feel like I’m advising giving up. I humbly suggest that this very process, a soulful new paradigm, is the key to a new and kinder relationship with food. Diets, food plans, mixing and matching, supplementing: and depriving may temporarily help. Accepting, moment to moment, is a long term Solution Far from being painful, acceptance is a form of kindness: you acknowledge your truths and where you are in this moment of your li...
• 彳亍

  2017-10-12
  Research finds that difficulty in identifying and understanding emo- tions, as well as problems in regulating them, influences binge eating more than gender, food restriction, or overvaluing shape and weight do (Whiteside et al. 2007). When people experience emotions intensely, or have trouble identifying what their emotions actually are, they may feel that they cannot cope with their feelings and may then try to avoid the discomfort by distracting themselves with food. You may notice that you simply jump from feeling any intense emotion to eating, thus losing contact with the emotion. This may feel like a relief at first, but it results in your missing the opportunity to experience the feeling for what it is (this is something you can practice doing, as we will see). It is inevitable t...
• 职心眼儿

  2018-07-28
  事实提醒自己别说什么“试试看”：要么直接去做，要么干脆别干。