幸福：追求比得到更快乐

• hedgehog

  2017-10-27
  paradoxically, in order to have the possibility of deep gratification, we need to admit the possibility of failure and frustration into our lives.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-27
  The hedonic paradox is the notion that by pursuing happiness itself, one makes it more distant, whereas by pursuing something else, one can inadvertently bring it closer.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-27
  it is their (creative and influential individual) dissatisfaction that drives them to achieve in domains humanity counts as valuable, so as long as outright psychiatric illness can be avoided.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-26
  Further evidence for this view comes from the fact that people who are happy in their jobs are also happy in their hobbies......In fact, the more enjoyment people get from Monday to Friday, the more they get evenings and weekends too.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-26
  Since it was impossible to know inherently what the optimal behaviour in local conditions would be, we evolved a psychology of looking at those around us who seemed to be doing best, and trying to do even better than them. This leads to competition very much like that observed between trees in tropical forests.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-19
  there are many domains where most people think themselves above average. Most people believe that they are bettern than average drivers, above average on desirable personality traits like conscientiousness and kindness, and more likely than average to achieve future life goals.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-19
  great unhappiness in life is often a result of thinking about things in the wrong way rather than objective circumstances; failling to discount other reasons for moods, aking the wrong comparison, or dwelling on the past in the wrong way.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-18
  Importantly, when we think about our future happiness we often fail to predict our own adaptation. One side-effect of adaptation is the so-called endowment effect, where we think it would be really hard to get long without something we now have, forgetting that we got along quite fine without it for years.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-18
  An autotelic person: needs few material possessions and little entertainment, comfort, power or fame, because so much of what he or she does is alreadly rewarding.... they are less dependent on external rewards that keep others motivated to go on with a life composed of dull and meaningless routines. They are more autonomous and independent, because they cannot be easily manipulated with threats or rewards from the outside. at the same time, they are more involved with everything around them because they are fully immersed in the current of life.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-17
  When people say they are happy with their lives, they do not usually mean that they are literally joyful, or experiencing pleasure, all of the time. They mean that, upon reflection on the balance sheet of pleasure and pains, they feel the balance to be reasonably positive over the long term.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-17
  not even a Utopia, can necessarily make the pursuit of happiness a sucessful one that ends in capture. The best society can merely allow every individual to flourish in the pursuit.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-27
  In other words, mechanisms that control the wanting of things are not identical to those that control the liking of them once they arrive. The two are after all logically quite distinct. You could crave for something very much, but take little or no pleasure in it once you had it.
• hedgehog

  2017-10-26
  If you can find alternative ways of being in control of your life, then you can be just as happy even if your income is low.